An Orisha Oshun Ritual On How to Keep Your Man Happy

I used to get a lot of phone calls from women.  They complained that their husbands/boyfriends are drifting away. I heard complaints such as: he doesn’t love me like he used to. He doesn’t care for me anymore. He used to be so romantic. He used to have eyes only for me. I know that every relationship goes through tough times, and it may be difficult to get the spark back, once the freshness of a relationship has faded away. However, there is a solution that will help any couple get through the rough patches of life. The Orisha Oshun ritual that I describe in this article will get the energy and love back into your relationship in no time.

Oshun and Chango

I had the honor of facilitating a wedding in Jamaica last year. I love to see two couples find love for a second time. I also tell people that it is easy to love, when you’re young and stupid. Life, hadn’t thrown you a bunch of curve balls, and you’ve haven’t been stung with hurt, betrayal, rejection, and a broken heart. So, it is very difficult to open your heart again, especially when virtually all of your previous experiences about love have been hurtful. When women open up to me about their past relationships, I like to tell them the story about Oshun and Chango.

Chango is an Orisha in the Yoruba pantheon. However, before he became a god. He was a very powerful man. Chango was the king of the great African City Oya.  He was cruel, gregarious, conniving, and a womanizer. He was a man who had everything, except love. So the beautiful Oshun comes into his life. Chango, being Chango believes that she will be another one of his conquest. He mistakenly believed that he would be able to easily seduce her, and toss her aside, as he did with other women. Oshun was beautiful. She was tall and shapely. She dressed in yellow, wore sweet perfume, jewelry and a beautiful crown of peacock feathers. Chango fell under Oshun’s spell and within a matter of days, he was head over heels in love with her. Once he experienced the love that he got from Oshun, he realized that he didn’t need anything else. He didn’t need the riches. He didn’t need the women. He didn’t need the power that he felt when he conquered distant lands. All he needed was the love that he felt from the beautiful Oshun.

So in the end, it was Oshun who helped Chango, a mere man, become a God. She released him from the constant pursuit of earthly pleasures, and propelled him to a rank of higher consciousness. A mere woman, would never be able to control, or inspire a powerful man like Chango. However, a goddess has the power to transform him into a godlike being. This is the story that I like to tell women, when they complain that their relationship is getting stale. It is then, that I have to ask them, what are you doing to inspire him? What are you doing to bring him into a higher level of consciousness?  So if you’re relationship is getting stale, maybe it is time for you to take things to the next level.

Love must grow or die

Relationships tend to get a little bit stale after people are married. The routine sets in, and the relationship becomes more of a habit than anything else. So what happens? We become complacent. Complacency makes us do what’s easy, when the real work comes with doing what is hard. In many cases, people get divorced or separated when in truth; their marriage just needs a jumpstart. Couples can get the ball rolling again with the Orisha Oshun ritual that I written below:

Understanding the importance of sexual energy.

I get a lot of complaints from women who say that they are simply not in the mood. Or they complain that sex has become bland and mechanical. You can search a million webpages and find all kinds of ways to get the sexual spark back in your relationship. However, I am here to tell you that most of the information is bullshit. Sex, isn’t about positions, toys, or even watching porno. The act of sex stems from the flow of sexual energy. If you’re horny, your sexual energy is flowing well. If you’re not in the mood, you probably have some blockages in your sexual chakra. The biggest problem that women have is that they’re giving away too much of their energy. They’re giving energy to their children, their jobs, and their communities. So when they get home, they have very little energy left for their husbands. This is a problem, especially since couples need for this energy to flow, in order to sustain a loving relationship.

It is important to understand that sex and love are on the same continuum.

Sexual energy is actually a lower vibration than love.  However, it is our job as women to increase the energetic frequency of sexual energy, so that it becomes love. So it is really about moving the energy from the 2^nd chakra, to the 3^rd and then through the 4^th.  The first thing that you have to do is practice this by yourself. I know, it might feel a little awkward. However, the more you do it the better you’ll get. You can start by imagining a ball of light, and then visualize the ball of light rising up through the lower chakras. At first, you won’t feel anything. However, over time, you will start to see and feel this energy working.

Dedicate your altar to Oshun

Oshun loves beautiful altars. So be sure to place flowers (expensive roses) honey, jewelry, and tea at her altar. She likes anything that is sweet, and will take virtually any offering as long as you come to her with love.  You can also work with spiritual practitioners, priest and priestess who are well versed and specialized in these types of energies. However, you can start with the altar and then go from there. Once you’ve done these rituals, you will start to feel a bit frisky. This practice along with these rituals will make sex ten times more passionate, ten times more intense. Then, after intercourse, focus on moving the energy up to the heart chakra. You must first, master this process yourself. Once you’re able to control the energy inside of your own body, you will be able to help your husband/significant other do the same.